2 thoughts on ““Love has opened the door.”

  1. ray wheaton Reply

    I am sorry to say that I have no idea what love is ..I don’t love anyone, I am sorry to say, and I don’t think anyone loves me…there are a few people I like, our children, my wife and a few others, but that is it…I am sure some people like me…I have always said that I don’t envy anyone, but I do envy your ability to love.

    1. Jerry L Martin Reply

      Ray, thank you for sharing this cry from the heart. You are not the only person for whom love is a challenge; we all know that feeling. The heart of the problem is “I don’t think anyone loves me.” The problem yields its own answer, but it is not an easy answer. You — anybody — can’t love unless you are loved — and know and feel loved. The real sin is not loving yourself. That prevents you from loving others. Loving yourself is easier said than done. If you do not feel loved, you think you are unlovable. God’s love, even more concretely a wife’s love, to the extent you can take those in can be helpful here. Even then, you — anybody — may still not feel lovable because of something far back and perhaps subterranean in childhood. In the book, I report my own challenge stemming from my mother’s emotional unavailability for many years after my baby brother died. Let me say one other thing. It is sometimes good not to aspire to Love everybody with a capital L or for them to Love you in some ultimate way. There are others you like and respect and feel kindness toward. And they like and respect and feel kindness toward you. Isn’t that enough to ask of a human being?

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